37 weeks... Baby boy is here !!!

20th Nov. 2018

After the last scan, it looked like 24th was the day when my baby is supposed to be born.. but few days ago, i got a call from the hospital saying that my surrogate is having pains and is unable to bear it..  The doctor said, there is a chance that the baby will arrive on 20th... Do u want to go ahead with this date...

As soon as she asked me this... i said," i have no issues as long as you think that the baby and the surrogate will be fine.."

And there, it was decided that the baby will arrive on 20th Nov..

2 Days before "The Day", i started washing all baby clothes, bought all last minute items and made the hospital bag ready !! I didnt expect the delivery to happen so early so i wasn't really prepared.. but then i managed it..

Day before "The Day", my parents arrived to Surat.. I really wanted my mother in law to be there for the delivery too, but she was on her way to Mumbai from Canada.

Finally the day arrived.... !!! After having a nice breakfast, we all got ready to go to the hospital at around 11am.. Doctor had given 12pm as the time of delivery..

After we reached, and completed a few formalities, we met the surrogate.. She told me that her water broke last night and that she was having contractions.. In a way i was glad to know that we didnt hurry and that we are doing the delivery at the right time.. The baby is ready to come out !

After meeting her I got changed into the hospital clothes to go inside the operation theater and witness the delivery.. My doctor asked me if i wanted a girl or boy .. and even though i knew that its a boy, i acted like.. it doesn't matter !!! I am happy with either!

Inside the delivery room, when i saw the whole preparation happening, to be frank, i got a bit scared.. Be it C-section or natural delivery, how do women go through all this !! My god.. it looks scary !

The surrogate was in pain and started crying a bit.. I tried to calm her down.. After few mins she got relaxed and i wished her all the best and stood right behind her.. Pratik joined me in the operation theater a few mins after..

Then the doctors started the C-section... OMG !!!! The way there were doing the whole procedure... It was scary and interesting at the same time... I had my fingers crossed and was hoping everything to go smoothly.. After a few mins, we saw the doctor pulling up baby's head, then its upper body.. and finally we saw his legs... and that first baby cry !!!!!!!!!

Omg!!! i started crying in that moment.. witnessing your child's birth is a sight no one will ever forget.. i literally saw my baby being born in this world !! It was the most magical experience ever !!

When the doctors were checking the baby, me n pratik went close to him and we both said the same thing together.. "He is sooo cutteeeee" !! Omg.. we just fell in love with him...

After he was cleaned and wrapped, it was time for nana nani and masi to meet him.. We got the baby out and clicked our very first pictures with him.. Nana toh had tears in his eyes and masi and nani were in aww of the baby!

As the news spread, i got so many calls from all the family members... omg !! it was over whelming..!

I thanked the doctor.. and the doctor asked me if i was happy that its a boy.. I told her that i already knew that its a boy since week 22.

Later, i gave a letter thanking my surrogate to my surrogate's husband... I will forever be thankful to her for giving me the most precious gift of my life..

Later, the baby got checked and the doctor confirmed that everything looks fine and there is no need of an NICU stay... I was really happy to to know this.. Its always good to know that the baby will be with you from the moment he is born..

After that, we transferred the baby to the new hospital in a beautiful suite room !  Me and nani made all the room arrangements for the baby... The nurse came in with our dear baby and explained me how to feed him and what medicines to give. It was a great first day experience with my baby boy .. And the best day of my life..

Will never forget this day !! ❤️❤️

Yuven Jaju!! Born on 20th November 2018 at 12:22pm weighing 2.9kgs and 19" tall!

35 weeks !! 9th Month is here !!

08 Oct. 2018

Finally the final month is here... 9th month !!!

Thanx to Diwali preps, the last 15 days went by easily.. and now we have approx 15 more days to go!

Today's scan was just as expected.. good weight gain of the baby, perfect amniotic fluid... and beautiful heart beat !!

Baby's weight is 2.6kgs now which is almost over 5Lbs.. so basically just one more pound to go !

Doctor was very happy and today we got to know the exact due date.. and guess what!! The baby is ready to come on our anniversary !!! yayy 😍😍

We also got some information regarding stem cell banking and we have decided to do that for our baby..

The surrogate was feeling absolutely fine which is a great thing to know.. She looked really comfortable and didn't look like she was in her 9th month now..

In coming days, we are planning to finish all final shopping for our dear angel.. We just want to be all prepared for the arrival of our bud!

This feeling is so amazing... shopping for the baby.. counting down days.. imagining how it will be when i see my baby for the first time.. Will we be able to bond or not..?? What will i do when he is finally here.. how will i take care.. omg !! So many things going on in my mind.. But i am really really excited ! Can't wait to hold him and tell the whole world.. This angel is mine !!! 💗

One more thing i would like to share.. since many people still don't know that we have done surrogacy and think that its me who is pregnant.. its getting weird to talk to them.. People ask me things like.. You must be chubby na... hows your health.. Are you ready for the final day..??

I try to be as genuine as possible with my answers.. and so, i always mention the baby's health rather than mine..

Its not like i am ashamed of my decision and that's y i am hiding about surrogacy.. but i think i just don't wanna involve more n more people in my personal life.. They didn't know about my miscarriages and so they shouldn't know about this too.. Plus.. I think its better to talk face to face about this than on text or phone..

Anyway, whatever it is.. i know many people are excited for the baby and i just keep getting messages from everyone that, "We can't wait to meet the baby!"

33 weeks update !!

23rd Oct. 2018

As we are approaching towards the last month of our surrogacy, there is really nothing much to update.. The bump is expanding.. surrogate's health is top notch.. and my dear baby is growing in a steady pace..  We are 8.5 months into our pregnancy now.. and i can't explain how happy i am to be at this stage..

As usual we had our ultrasound today. And the baby now weighs around 2.3kgs.

Me n Pratik still go to the ultrasounds every 15 days, even though the scan now happens every week.

Doctor says there is no need for us to come to the hospital every week.. and i do agree.. Since i only get like 5 mins to meet the surrogate.. so it hardly makes a difference. But i do get regular updates from the assistant doctors. 

Today at the scan i felt very calm and satisfied. Things have been going great and i just feel at peace. Its hard to believe, but you kinda do acknowledge this kind of feeling after years of tears and sadness.

All i can say is that, i am loving it ! And as the days pass by i am getting more and more excited.. !!!

Less than 5 weeks to go.. darling baby !!! 💖

31 weeks !!! Update !!

10th Oct. 2018

After almost 3 weeks we went for the ultrasound. We had been to Pondicherry for a small relaxing vacation and came back excited to see our angel after so many days. 

This time our appointment was at the old hospital where the surrogate was admitted. It was little weird being there as we were used to the new hospital and it’s staff. 

Anyway, when my surrogate came downstairs for the ultrasound I could see that hugggee bump !! Omg !! It’s almost like there is a football inside 😁

As the ultrasound was happening I realised it’s more difficult to distinguish baby’s parts, now that he is getting big. So it was hard to get a proper picture. 

As you can see above, it’s hard to know what part this is 🙈

Anyway, I was happy to know that now my baby weights around 1.9kgs. Although the weight is a bit much for a 31 week baby, my doctor assured that everything is normal. Also my surrogate’s sugar is in control. 

One exciting thing my doctor told me is that, seeing the growth of the baby, there might be a possibility that baby could arrive as early as 20 November.. but she will try that the baby stays inside for a little more time. Doctor told me to be prepared for the arrival between 20-30 November !!! Wowww !! I am so excited !! 

So by the new due dates, I have less than 50 days to go !! Yayyy 😃😃

Can’t wait!! 💖

Best Baby Shower Surprise Ever !!

8th Oct. 2018

As i came out of my morning shower, I saw Pratik standing with a bouquet of roses in his hand outside my bathroom.. And the only question in my mind was... "Pratik got me flowers!!??"
Later, he told me that they are from my elder sister.. I got really surprised and called her up and asked .."What is this!?"

She told me that she has planned some surprises for me which i will get one by one today..

I got realllyy excited... and was thinking what has she really planned.??  Later i got to know that not just my elder sister, but my parents as well as my younger sis is involved in this surprise.. n that made me more curious as to whats gonna happen next..

After a few hours came another surprise... My door bell rang n there i saw a guy from swiggy with a box of mini cupcakes...  He handed them to me n told me that they are from priyanka.. 

Ohh.. so second one is a sweet surprise.. i like where this is going...

But what was more surprising was.. when i called up my sis she told me not to eat them and wait till the next surprise.. that made me more curious and excited...

It was lunch time and i had to go upstairs to have lunch.. but there i was.. waiting for my next surprise to arrive.. i waited till 2.. but then had to go up to have lunch... After i came down.. few mins later my door bell rang.. n there was this courier guy holding a hugeee box.. 😮😮

Omg !! Omg !! what is this !!!
As i opened the box i saw a few things inside and a note outside the box..  I immediately told preksha bhabhi to record my reaction video so that i can send it to my sisters n parents..

There were chocolates, a dress for me, wallet for pratik, a bag, a baby book, baby clothes kit, mom to be goodies and some lovely greeting cards... with cute messages on each of them..

I was sooo sooo happy with this surprise.. I just can't express in words.. It was wayy beyond my expectations.. As i said in my last post.. It was clear in my mind that i should not have a baby shower.. But this.. wow !! This just tells how much my family loves me and i am so overwhelmed by such a sweet gesture.. All 4 of you are my life.. and our love is so unconditional.. 

You guys made my day... and its been long since i have felt so special... 

Just.. a huge hug !!! and a big big thanx !

Diabetes, Baby's Weight and Baby Shower updates!!!

In my last post, i mentioned that my baby didn't gain any weight in 2 weeks and i was really worried about it.. Turns out, it wasn't a big deal. Infact it was good that my baby didn't gain much weight.. Thats coz, my surrogate is diagnosed with gestational diabetes.

What this means, is that, some women develop high sugar levels only during pregnancy and mostly during 3rd trimester. And after the delivery their sugar levels come back to normal. High sugar levels only affect the baby if the levels are too high and uncontrolled. This results in big and heavy baby.. and due to rapid weight gain the baby is usually delivered early (before 38 weeks) which is not good.. Baby's most organs are well developed by 38-39 weeks.. so, delivery before that means, baby will have to stay in NICU for few days or weeks and will have some jaundice after birth. Though jaundice is very common and easily treatable.. i feel its better if we can avoid it by delivering the baby after 38 weeks.

So, basically, now we have to take care that the baby does gain weight, but in a steady pace. If  the sugar level gets too high, it will affect the baby in a way that, even if he is all fine after delivery, he will get diabetes in future.

2 days ago, i got to know that my doctor has started insulin shots for my surrogate. I got a bit worried for a minute.. but then i thought.. may be this is just a safety measure. And when i talked to my doctor, she said the same. Its a safety measure and don't worry, the insulin won't get inside the baby, as it never crosses the placenta.

Sigh !! I think there is nothing to worry now !!😊


23rd Sept. 2018

Since we are in our 7th month now, its time for baby shower..!
Well, not my baby shower, my surrogate's shower !
I got some fruits, dry fruits, flowers, a kurti for my surrogate.. I called her up and invited her to the hospital at around 3pm.. It was visarjan day, so we knew she would be busy in the morning for the pooja.

Anyway, we reached the hospital at 3pm.. went inside and i saw my surrogate dressed in a beautiful sari.. Perfectly dressed for godh bharai. We went inside the room where she will be admitted the day after .. I took some kumkum, applied tilak to her, gave her the fruits and all... in her pallu.. and showered some flower petals and rice grains on her.

To tell you the truth, i felt a little weird while doing all this.. Me performing the rituals of baby shower.. on my surrogate who is carrying my baby..!!  I did feel like something was taken away from me.. But anyway, my surrogate is really sweet. As soon as her's was done.. she told me.. now i will do ur godh bharai...

She made me sit down, applied kumkum and showered flower and rice grains on me.. and did that hands gesture where u take the varna and break ur hand's knuckles around ur head (i don't know what it is really called) 🙈

That was a really sweet gesture..

I didn't feel any craving for my baby shower as it was very clear in my mind.. im not pregnant, so i am not supposed to have a baby shower. But only when i was performing the rituals on her is when i felt really weird.. But anyway, it was very considerate of my surrogate to do a mini baby shower for me.. I am very thankful for having her.

Today, she will be admitted to the hospital, and i am sure the hospital staff will take good care of her and my baby.. Just less than 80 days to go.. !!!

28 weeks.. Welcome Third Trimester...

18th Sept. 2018

10am.. Went to the hospital for our regular checkup.. Since the last scan was very good and baby was showing 2 week ahead growth.... As usual i was excited to see my baby surprise me with amazing growth and weight this week too..

Today was one of those days when we had to wait the longest for our appointment.. meanwhile me n my surrogate were chatting about her health which is great btw.. and then again i tried to touch her belly and again.. felt nothing.. Today i got really really disappointed.. what the hell !! I just wanna feel my baby once... why is he not responding when i touch..

I guess my feelings were pretty evident on my face.. so my surrogate took me inside a waiting room and lifted her kurta while lying down on the bed and told me to carefully look at her belly.. She then tapped her belly a few times.. and there.. i saw it.. i saw the kick !!! Yay.. finally.. i got something !😃

Later, we went in for our ultrasound and i was expecting a weight of atleast 1.5kgs.. since last time it was 1.2kgs.. The doctor went through all measurements.. checked the heartbeat...

And then she said.. 1.25kgs hai.. ! I was shocked.. no weight gain in 2 weeks..??😱 I got super super worried.. 😨

Later.... when we had a chat with the doctor, she said.. Don't worry.. this is absolutely normal.. in last appointment the baby showed more than expected growth.. so it is absolutely normal for the weight gain to slow down as long as all the measurements are increasing and there is a healthy heartbeat and baby movement.  

Well, she was right, i checked the measurements from the last appointment and the baby does show a growth in size..  I took a sigh of relief.. !! (Typical mummy wala tension chalu ho gaya hai😆)

Later we talked about my surrogate's admission to the hospital. She will be spending her last trimester in the hospital until delivery time.. This is done to avoid any emergencies and to take good care of the surrogate and my baby until delivery time. My doctor also told me that once the baby is delivered, i will have to stay in the hospital with the baby for a week or so.. 

I was like... Great !!! I am ready to stay anywhere with my baby...  Plus this way i will also get the hospital feel as if i have delivered my baby 😁!!! Hehe..