For any lady who is planning to start a family there are so many advises that are given by people to her so that she can conceive.. I was also a victim of this situation.. specially after people learned that i am having problems regarding pregnancy..
Some people thought i was delaying family planning and hence they would ask me every time.. "Beta, how long are you going to wait..? You should start planning now " or the normal desi style.. "good news kab degi??" Initially i got really frustrated with all those questions.. it started to affect me more since i was already affected by my existing situation.
Later, as i learned to cope with my problems.. i started to dodge the question.. or tried to bring sympathy for myself by answering.. "Aunty, i am sure you know how difficult it is with today's lifestyle to conceive.. how do i tell u, i'm getting so stressed..".. and as soon as i said this.. maximum aunties used to reply.. " Oh beta..i understand.. you please don't take any stress" 😉
This answer was usually followed by an advice.. something that i should do in order to get pregnant and have a baby..
Some of the suggestions that i got..and that absolutely did not work for me.. were..( no offence to anyone who believes in all this )
1. Feed the fishes
2. Meet this famous astrologer
3. Mannat maango
4. Write "Ram" naam 56,304 times..
5. Recite some mantra for a specific number of times..
6. Do a rahu-ketu pooja
7. Go to rajasthan for kul devi's blessings...
8. At night, sleep in a east-west position
And many more....
I am not saying that you should not follow this.. Do all this only if you heart says so.. but nothing like this will help you to conceive or carry a pregnancy full term..
If everything is working well for you.. a visit to the temple to thank god is a great idea... But pleading to god to give you a baby doesn't work.
Another thing that didn't work for me.. and i am sure everyone will agree is.. "Stress"..
Yes.. the big S word that is the reason for major health issues in today's world.. I can't stress enough on how important it is to keep stress away in order to have a baby.
One more thing that didn't work for me was.. "Constant positive thinking"..
To accept the problems that are going on in your life is the best way to cope with it. Yes, its extremely hard to do.. but that definitely works. It was the moment when i accepted that surrogacy is the only way for me, i found success..!
Things that happen to us.. just happen to us.. there is nothing like.. "Why did this happen to only me? ".. You cannot control anything outside of you.. The only thing you can control is you.. How you react to situations and what you make out of it.. Remember, you are in charge of your own happiness and it can come to you even if you are absolutely alone !!
Things that do work in times like these are..
Patience, Accepting your issues and trying to solve them medically (sometimes second opinions from other doctors are also helpful), exercise, a well balanced diet and living in the present... that's it !
Some people thought i was delaying family planning and hence they would ask me every time.. "Beta, how long are you going to wait..? You should start planning now " or the normal desi style.. "good news kab degi??" Initially i got really frustrated with all those questions.. it started to affect me more since i was already affected by my existing situation.
Later, as i learned to cope with my problems.. i started to dodge the question.. or tried to bring sympathy for myself by answering.. "Aunty, i am sure you know how difficult it is with today's lifestyle to conceive.. how do i tell u, i'm getting so stressed..".. and as soon as i said this.. maximum aunties used to reply.. " Oh beta..i understand.. you please don't take any stress" 😉
This answer was usually followed by an advice.. something that i should do in order to get pregnant and have a baby..
Some of the suggestions that i got..and that absolutely did not work for me.. were..( no offence to anyone who believes in all this )
1. Feed the fishes
2. Meet this famous astrologer
3. Mannat maango
4. Write "Ram" naam 56,304 times..
5. Recite some mantra for a specific number of times..
6. Do a rahu-ketu pooja
7. Go to rajasthan for kul devi's blessings...
8. At night, sleep in a east-west position
And many more....
I am not saying that you should not follow this.. Do all this only if you heart says so.. but nothing like this will help you to conceive or carry a pregnancy full term..
If everything is working well for you.. a visit to the temple to thank god is a great idea... But pleading to god to give you a baby doesn't work.
Another thing that didn't work for me.. and i am sure everyone will agree is.. "Stress"..
Yes.. the big S word that is the reason for major health issues in today's world.. I can't stress enough on how important it is to keep stress away in order to have a baby.
One more thing that didn't work for me was.. "Constant positive thinking"..
To accept the problems that are going on in your life is the best way to cope with it. Yes, its extremely hard to do.. but that definitely works. It was the moment when i accepted that surrogacy is the only way for me, i found success..!
Things that happen to us.. just happen to us.. there is nothing like.. "Why did this happen to only me? ".. You cannot control anything outside of you.. The only thing you can control is you.. How you react to situations and what you make out of it.. Remember, you are in charge of your own happiness and it can come to you even if you are absolutely alone !!
Things that do work in times like these are..
Patience, Accepting your issues and trying to solve them medically (sometimes second opinions from other doctors are also helpful), exercise, a well balanced diet and living in the present... that's it !
Sometimes if things get too bad for you and you feel depressed.. Seeing a counselor is a much logical way of dealing with the situation. I didn't go to a counselor ( Coz pratik had faith in me that I can fight this) but in my heart I knew I needed one..
I truly believe in the fact that we cannot control someone's birth or death.. the only thing that we can control is, what we do in situations like these.
I truly believe in the fact that we cannot control someone's birth or death.. the only thing that we can control is, what we do in situations like these.
